Middle adulthood is allegedly the period when the first visible signs of aging begin, such as gray hair, balding, and wrinkles. As I write this, I am 36 years old, rapidly balding, and have numerous white hairs threatening to turn my dark hair “salt and pepper,” so I’d say I have a head start on this phase—no pun intended. The text mentions the popular trend among middle-aged men of shaving one’s head to minimize the appearance of baldness. Several of my relatives and acquaintances have taken that route, but because of my rather large ears, it is definitely not going to be an option for me (unless I want to look like Dopey the dwarf or the kid on Mad magazine).
Middle adulthood is also the period when needs for personal life satisfaction merge with requirements for career satisfaction, according to the text. I believe that is something I foresaw when I chose to pursue my doctorate degree, and it’s one of the main reasons why I chose to do so now. I realize I will only be satisfied with my career in the long term if it allows me to enjoy my personal life too. Specifically, I recognize that as I enter middle adulthood and my children (now 7 and 4) get older, control over my time is going to be a primary concern. Furthering my education is a step toward achieving the autonomy I need in order to be available for my family as well as enjoy leisure activities. It is those people who enjoy a variety of leisure activities in middle adulthood who see retirement as an opportunity rather than a difficult transition. I have seen my father begin to make a healthy transition into retirement through his continued active involvement in outdoor activities such as hunting and fishing, and hope to do the same myself.
The inevitable transition when our children leave home is more likely to be a difficult one for my wife, as she is home with our children now. That is why I frequently encourage her to think of furthering her education after our youngest is in school, as well as to continue enjoying hobbies and other outside interests. Another inevitable transition will occur as our parents begin to age and depend on us for their care. We recently sought to ease that transition by moving closer to my parents’ home. Now that we are next-door neighbors, not only will we be there for them when they need us, but our children will benefit from their influence, we’ll benefit from their support, and they’ll get to enjoy our children’s growing-up years. With our little boys nearby, I can assure them that post-retirement boredom will definitely not be an issue. J